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Are Fears Keeping You From A Better Life?

Halloween is around the corner. It’s the time we pretend with our kids that there are ghosts, goblins and all kinds of scary things that wander in the dark. We let scary movies shock our socks off and terrify us with “what-if” fears. Halloween is all fun and games; it comes and goes. But do you let your own “created” fears keep you from your best life? Are they keeping you from getting to your next level of personal or professional success? Or maybe you do recognize your fears but you don’t know how to address them.

From the perspective of coaching, it’s best to look at fear and decide if it’s a beneficial instinct or an internal block that holds you back. Some examples that are beneficial include being afraid you will miss out on your kids’ lives if all you do is focus on your career, getting into financially risky situations that you are not in a position to undertake, or jumping into a new business before you have everything planned and thought out. On the other hand, fears that block and hold us back include fear of success, fear that I’m not good enough, or fear of change.

Fears that hold you back may have originated from your own past experiences, however, they may also have been handed down or taught to you. But nevertheless you’ve adopted them and made them a powerful force in your life that is causing you an internal conflict and keeping you from living your best.

So what do you do when your fear rises and you know it’s holding you back? You have choices and making a choice lets you know that you are no longer paralyzed by the fear. You can accept it or do something about it. Let’s call it “picking your battles”.

Accepting your fear means that it is not worth the turmoil or reward to do anything about it. It also may mean the timing is not right. Just remember if you decide to accept it, it doesn’t have to be forever. I’m sure that same fear will creep into your life at another time and you can choose again what you are going to do. And if you do accept your fear, know that it was a decision you made with diligence rather than from a passive position of weakness.

So what do you do if you decide to face your fear and do something about it? There are basically four steps:

Acknowledge: What is this fear and how does it appear?
Research: Understand it and what are the ramifications of facing it?
Strategy: How will you face your fear?
Action: Go and face it with the full understanding of what you are doing.

At Your Life Just Better, we help clients in many ways. We can help identify your fear so you can decide whether to accept it or do something about it. We strongly believe that you have the answers within yourself. And by working with one of our personal one-on-one coaches and using our tools and strategies, we will help you find those answers in less time and without spending so much emotional energy.

So go and have fun with Halloween. Watch those scary movies that let your imagination run wild with fear. Just don’t let your unwanted created fears keep you from A Better Life.

Carol Satterlee, CPC

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